I’ve been eating gluten, dairy, sugar and caffeine free for a few years now so I’m well practised in explaining my digestive sensitivities to friends, family and restaurant waiters who roll their eyes as they make their third trip back to the kitchen to check the ingredients with the chef!
For this I apologise, but to be honest these days I’m really over worrying what people think. That one mouthful of something not quite right can be enough to kick-start my symptoms and have me feeling ill for the whole day, and I’m just not willing to take that risk because I LOVE feeling good, and feeling good has become my new normal.
What I find fascinating about how people respond to my sensitivities is that so many can actually relate to the bloating or cramping that comes after eating bread or the awful gas with dairy, but yet they keep on eating it. I can’t count the number of times I’ve heard “but there’s no way I could live without my”………chocolate, coffee, cheese, bread, pizza, pasta and the list goes on.
When you really think about it how crazy is that? What is it about our relationship with food that hooks us in and allows us to abuse our bodies so willingly? Can it just be for the satisfaction of those few tantilising minutes or is there something else we’re getting out of it?
How food numbs us
What has become clear to me recently is that there is a big something ~ and it’s not nutrition we’re seeking ~ it’s a way of numbing ourselves out from the hurt of how we really feel about ourselves, and the lovelessness that exists around us. OUCH!
Ever craved chocolate when you’re feeling emotional; coffee when you’re depleted; carbs when you’re stressed or dairy when you’re down? These are just a few of the many, many ways we find comfort in our foods.
But is comfort really what we need? Is there a possibility that our emotional relationship with food is holding us back from dealing with the deeper issues?
What food does to your feeling sense
Aside from their advocated nutritional value every food carries an energetic quality that has one of two effects on the body ~ it either dulls your feeling sense or speeds up your nervous system so that you can’t feel your feeling sense (also known as awareness).
Even if you haven’t registered it consciously you know exactly what foods do what, and how much you need of each and at what time to keep a lid on the feelings bubbling under the surface.
It will come as no surprise then that the champion foods for speeding up the body are: sugar and caffeine and those for dulling are: gluten, dairy and grains (including rice). You can also add to this effect by moderating how much you eat, with over-eating creating a dulling and under-eating a speeding up effect. Every mouthful counts!
Filling the emptiness with comfort foods
These comfort foods may fill your tummy but they can’t fill your emptiness. With this in mind, perhaps next time you’re reaching for the chocolate you could take a moment to tune in and ask yourself who’s asking for it ~ your emotional neediness or your body?
Thankfully the body doesn’t require much but your neediness does, so much so that it never stops seeking outside itself for gratification, albeit momentarily. But there is good news and a simple solution to this vicious cycle of disregard and that is ~ LOVE ~ which can only be grown within you and ~ for YOU.
The healing power of self-love
Only with self-love will your choices truly change and it won’t be from the mental discipline to resist the urge to eat something, but a deep love of your body and your awareness that won’t allow you to ingest anything that causes you harm.
Perhaps if we all learnt how to love and nurture ourselves properly we wouldn’t have the huge issues of obesity and diabetes that we have today. Rather than focusing on the final outcome of what we eat wouldn’t the better question be why? And lets go deeper than economics, nationality, culture and gender and get to the real heart of the issue (pun intended) ~ self-love.
Could there be anything simpler? And by simple I don’t mean easy because loving yourself requires you to feel everything that’s not loving, which means all the self-sabotage, doubt, protection, hatred and unworthiness all have to be felt and let go of. But could there be any better reward? Certainly beats a block of chocolate!