I’m sure you’ve all experienced one of those moments with a baby or child when you’re feeling down and disconnected and all it takes is one smile, one big beaming sparkly-eyed smile to melt your heart like butter.
That is the true power of love right there. So how come children have it in abundance but as adults we seem to have either toned it down or hidden it completely? What are we hiding from?
What has become clear to me through my own process of healing and working with others is the sad reality that most of us walk around with this big aching hurt of not feeling good enough.
As children we all come into this world with immense love, light and incredible awareness. We feel the truth of everything around us and that everything is energy.
As little masters of wisdom we’re celebrated for our very being. Our parents and those around us recognise us for the love that we are, and we’re not asked to be anything more or less.
So what happens as we age? Why is it that so many kids from about five onwards suddenly feel the pressure to disregard their true expression and be the ‘good little boy’ or ‘girl’? And I’m not blaming parents here. This imposition comes from every angle, in fact it’s seeded in our very social consciousness.
From ‘being’ to ‘doing’
We’re rewarded with recognition and attention for our ‘achievements’, whether it be how pretty, clever, athletic or conversely how naughty we are. These become the defining factors by which we measure and judge ourselves against each other and the world.
Enter separation from love. Suddenly our friends become our competitors and life one big game of winners and losers. And who’d want to be a ‘loser’ if every message coming at you from school, sport, TV and movies tells you that the ‘winners’ take the glory.
But what about the gloriousness that you already are which seeks no outer recognition to validate itself? Did they neglect to teach you that?
The hurt of how you feel about yourself
Every time you drive to achieve, whether it be for the perfect job, relationship, family, wealth, power, popularity or fame to make you feel enough – you reject the love that you already are. OUCH!
And yes this hurts. It hurts so very much that you’ll do anything not to feel how you really feel about yourself. So any time this rejection is reflected back at you, your protective instinct will have you running for the hills to hide or hardening against the hurt.
How our hurts hold us back
But who’s the victim here? The hurt or you? After spending a life running and defending and getting absolutely no closer to self-love, I’ve recently come to the realisation that we’re not the victims of what happens to us but the victims of our hurts.
They keep us always holding on and never truly healing. They lurk in the background of all our disregarding choices and behaviours, convincing us that we’re not worthy of the love that we already are – pure, unemotional, all-encompassing LOVE.
Reclaiming the love that you ARE
So what does this mean exactly and how can this help you to live in the fullness of you and let the love shine?
The answer is simple. Start being really honest with yourself and stop running from your hurts. See every situation and person as an opportunity to heal and let go of the un-truths you’ve been telling yourself. As you shed these layers of limiting ideals and beliefs you’ll find something so powerful, so utterly glorious that you’ll know your arrival was well worth the journey.