This blog was inspired by a recent dilemma I was faced with – missing the wedding of one of my dearest and oldest friends or a healing course, which just happens to only be run once every few years and is an important part of my professional development.
The dilemma of choice
What would a good friend do? Would you stay true to your commitment and be there for that one special day for your friend knowing that you were putting your own life on hold; or would you choose to follow your heart and risk damaging an important relationship?
Feeling what is true, not what you think you should do
Needing to get clear on the situation I drew on the advice of a friend who suggested that I go deep into my heart and feel what is true, not what I think I should do, and that the highest answer will always be in truth, not what is right.
This gem of wisdom helped to make everything clear and shed light on how I had held myself back in relationships before by trying to please others and not wanting to let them down.
The illusion of pleasing
But on reflection this whole pleasing business is really just illusionary. Can we not feel when someone’s heart isn’t in it? Could it actually hurt more to have someone physically there but feel that they’re not present?
After seeing through the veil of my false pleasing and the energy behind it of not trusting that my love is enough, I’ve been working on being true in all my relationships and have been blown away by the results.
A relationship based on understanding and acceptance
When I’m honest and chose to be true this actually invites others to do the same and they’re loving it! Imagine a friendship where you have absolute trust in your love for one another and understanding that whatever you do or don’t do that will never change.
I’m so chuffed and grateful to say that I have one of those very friendships with my friend getting married. I won’t be there for the wedding celebration but she knows our friendship is about the love and commitment that we share each and every day.
What a blessing to feel truly understood.